A secret ingredient to enjoying your life more
How much do you enjoy your life? I’m pretty sure that’s the point of this whole thing. Life won’t always go our way, be completely fair, or without hard times, but I think it’s ultimately meant to be enjoyed as much as possible. I’d say it’s going well for me — but I feel like […]
Gratitude is good for us. Here’s a way to practice it this week.
It’s the season of gratitude, counting our blessings, celebrating the harvest. That’s the idea, anyway. In reality, it’s pretty easy to go through the motions. To complain about our turkeys and families and either forget or brush off what the tradition is supposedly about. So, let’s take a beat and reflect on that – to […]
How (and why) to make your gratitude practice stick
We know gratitude is good for us. Studies link actively practicing it with everything from having a strong immune system, to fewer aches and pains, lower blood pressure, better sleep, more positive emotions, richer social connections and a generally more meaningful life. The data is clear; it warrants a robust practice. But how’s that going […]
Try this to reinvigorate any relationship
We know relationships require attention and care to go the distance and thrive. But we tend to wing it. This makes sense. We’re busy. Life can be nuts. But few things are more important than high-quality relationships, and I’m finding that for them to really flourish, regular and intentional tending to is required. Flowers need […]
We can even have gratitude in 2020 — and we need it
This year has been rough. On top of the large issues of the day, I see so many of us wrestling with various personal struggles, too. In these times, it’s more important than ever to call upon gratitude. I’m not suggesting we deny our pain, or put on rose-colored glasses or not take action. But […]
Here are 2 ways to increase your positivity now
Genuine happiness is not determined by our circumstances. It doesn’t arise from what we have or what we can do. Instead, research suggests that true happiness comes from a proactively cultivated positive mindset. It takes work. What’s involved? How does one cultivate said positive mindset? I’m glad you asked! A therapist once told me to […]
How we kill our own joy, and how to bring it back
One way that we kill our own joy: comparison. The demon has been on my radar since third grade, when I decided that cool people were short. I was tall for my age. I literally measured myself against others. As much as I’d like to say that I’ve totally outgrown this pestilent trait, au contraire. […]
Change Your Focus, Change Your Life
Here’s a challenge I’m working on myself. I’d love for you to join in. For at least the next week, whenever you complain, say something you’re grateful for too. Feel for relaxing in your body as you do that. It’s human nature to focus on our problems, but for every one thing that’s wrong, millions […]