Change Your Words, Change Your Life
One of the hallmarks of a great friend (or therapist), is being a great listener. These precious souls hear us and thus help us to hear ourselves. That’s huge. I’ve found that the answers we seek are not actually outside our awareness. The insight we crave is within–just often tangled up in our heads. Sometimes another person […]
How To Be More Assertive
Do you have trouble standing up for yourself? Or maybe on the other hand, do you tend to get hostile and confrontational? If either is true, here are three tips for cultivating a healthy level of assertiveness. 1 – Accept your feelings. I often write off how I feel because I feel bad for feeling the […]
A Remedy For Destructive Thoughts
Do you have many self-destructive thoughts? “I can’t do this.” “I’m such an idiot.” “I look disgusting.” If any of that’s familiar, it’s safe to say you’re blocking ability to really enjoy your life and live out your fullest potential. So here’s a trick I learned from Sonia Isabelle, my good friend and host of […]
Your Body Knows Best
Our bodies give us information. One of my good friends throws up whenever she really needs to break up with someone. Physical cues aren’t always quite that pronounced, but they’re always there. Our bodies reflect something deeper. They don’t lie. They tell us if something’s good/bad…whether we should proceed or stop, and so much more. […]
Change Your Focus, Change Your Life
Here’s a challenge I’m working on myself. I’d love for you to join in. For at least the next week, whenever you complain, say something you’re grateful for too. Feel for relaxing in your body as you do that. It’s human nature to focus on our problems, but for every one thing that’s wrong, millions […]
Two Ways To Be Happier Immediately
Happiness is closely linked with mindset and level of positivity. In today’s tip, I share two ways to give yourself a positivity boost. First: sing or dance. Make this as expressive as possible, even if it’s just for 30 seconds, you’re completely by yourself, and you really don’t feel like it. Action changes the way […]
How to Feel Empowered to Initiate Change
A few years ago, I was in a rough place. My ten-year relationship was ending for reasons that I couldn’t really understand, and I was heartbroken. I couldn’t see a clear path forward and I didn’t know what to do. So I prayed for help and started taking one step at a time. That turned […]
A Trick to Fall Asleep
This technique is like medicine. Instead of getting frustrated when you can’t fall asleep, do this. Deepen your breath Inhale a little bit, and hold Inhale a little more, and hold again Inhale and totally fill your lungs… Slowly, with control, exhale; release every last last drop of air Do all this through your nose […]