The best way out is through
I used to think the best way to help someone going through something was to reassure them. Offer justifications or another way of seeing things. Help them feel better, ideally, as quickly as possible. This was extremely well-intentioned. No one likes being in pain. It seems like the kind and friendly thing to do — […]
How to listen to your body
“Listen to your body.” It’s a directive that comes up when we talk about how hard to workout, what and how much to eat, how much sleep to get, water to drink and more. It’s thrown around a lot and sometimes in deeper ways, too. “Go with your gut,” for instance, refers to following visceral […]
Change Your Words, Change Your Life
One of the hallmarks of a great friend (or therapist), is being a great listener. These precious souls hear us and thus help us to hear ourselves. That’s huge. I’ve found that the answers we seek are not actually outside our awareness. The insight we crave is within–just often tangled up in our heads. Sometimes another person […]